Just read finished the full version of this popular book, "Who moved my cheese" by Dr Spencer Johnson and would like to share some of the insights I was inspired by.
A key question that really gripped me was: "What would you do if you weren't afraid?"
Fear, or some form of it has been one of the main reasons which prevents us from moving forward, pursue new interests or explore new horizons. "What if I end up alone, what if I lose control in the process, what if things suddenly become better with the situation now, what if my boss doesnt like it, what if something bad happens while I'm on the move, what if people laugh at me..."
If we strip all that away, it boils down to a simple binomial response, do you proceed or do you not proceed.
I dont want to over simplify things but sometimes maybe we need to take a step back because we tend to over-complicate things by adding too many factors/ variables in there. Yes, we might need to consider factors like money, family, justification of effort, morality... but sometimes, when we let other factors like these overwhelm our decision, isn't that just us covering up our fears?
If we know deep down, we have the resources, we have the solutions to overcome the potential obstacles/consequences in the decision, then isn't what is left, just us against ourselves?
"What would you do if you weren't afraid?
Would you quit your job knowing it is not giving you satisfaction right now or potential career progression and instead of foolishly thinking it will get better, to move and explore new opportunities? "The quicker you let go of the old, you can embrace the new"
Would you sign up for new things or go traveling by yourself if you weren't afraid of being alone or cared too much about what others might think of you? Or worried that you will be bored and lonely?
"Savor the adventure, visualize yourself on how happy you are in a new situation. Anything is better than the rut you are currently in."
Would you let go of a relationship if you knew it wasn't what you are after or what you deserve. Or vice versa, would you actively pursue one if you knew it would make you happy and you werent so afraid of losing control or thinking too much about what the other party is thinking about? "Things will keep changing, you dont want to regret on something you didn't act early enough"
Would you stick to the old way of doing knowing it is just enough and knowing it will get the job somewhat done but resist going a riskier approach that could either flop or triumph or that it will make someone upset and your performance will therefore get affected? "Be true to yourself, at the end of the day, you want to be proud of your result and the journey it took you there."
I challenge myself and anyone out there, when you are at a crossroad, be it major or small, when you know intrinsically, the only obstacle is yourself. Ask yourself this question and be amazed at how small the other factors will seem to be when you put it into perspective.
"What would you do if you weren't afraid?"
A key question that really gripped me was: "What would you do if you weren't afraid?"
Fear, or some form of it has been one of the main reasons which prevents us from moving forward, pursue new interests or explore new horizons. "What if I end up alone, what if I lose control in the process, what if things suddenly become better with the situation now, what if my boss doesnt like it, what if something bad happens while I'm on the move, what if people laugh at me..."
If we strip all that away, it boils down to a simple binomial response, do you proceed or do you not proceed.
I dont want to over simplify things but sometimes maybe we need to take a step back because we tend to over-complicate things by adding too many factors/ variables in there. Yes, we might need to consider factors like money, family, justification of effort, morality... but sometimes, when we let other factors like these overwhelm our decision, isn't that just us covering up our fears?
If we know deep down, we have the resources, we have the solutions to overcome the potential obstacles/consequences in the decision, then isn't what is left, just us against ourselves?
"What would you do if you weren't afraid?
Would you quit your job knowing it is not giving you satisfaction right now or potential career progression and instead of foolishly thinking it will get better, to move and explore new opportunities? "The quicker you let go of the old, you can embrace the new"
Would you sign up for new things or go traveling by yourself if you weren't afraid of being alone or cared too much about what others might think of you? Or worried that you will be bored and lonely?
"Savor the adventure, visualize yourself on how happy you are in a new situation. Anything is better than the rut you are currently in."
Would you let go of a relationship if you knew it wasn't what you are after or what you deserve. Or vice versa, would you actively pursue one if you knew it would make you happy and you werent so afraid of losing control or thinking too much about what the other party is thinking about? "Things will keep changing, you dont want to regret on something you didn't act early enough"
Would you stick to the old way of doing knowing it is just enough and knowing it will get the job somewhat done but resist going a riskier approach that could either flop or triumph or that it will make someone upset and your performance will therefore get affected? "Be true to yourself, at the end of the day, you want to be proud of your result and the journey it took you there."
I challenge myself and anyone out there, when you are at a crossroad, be it major or small, when you know intrinsically, the only obstacle is yourself. Ask yourself this question and be amazed at how small the other factors will seem to be when you put it into perspective.
"What would you do if you weren't afraid?"
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